Competition between single women

I found out today that Cankles actually wrote my boss an email complaining about my loud laughter. She complained that it is unprofessional.

I should give some background information to explain why this just irks me so badly. I work in the type of casual work environment where you can round a corner and interrupt a put-put golf game. Also, she dated Rind for about a year before he went back to his wife. And she often observes he and I going to lunch together because we are friends. Also, this is just the kind of person she is. I’ve said to about 5 people in my company, hey, ya know that Cankles lady? She’s a real bitch huh? All of their responses have reeked of duh and ya think? But that just reflects how this is not personal, and that’s just how she is. How sad it must be to be known in this way.

Then I was speaking to Duck and he informed me that Waylon and Richard have dated. I told him that was only rumor, but he insisted that he had heard it from the horse’s mouth. This absolutely infuriates me! I have opened up to her so much, just because she is so sweet, and we are friends (I had thought). And then I found out that she lied to me? And her lies have manipulated me? I am very hurt.

I had dinner with E, and he pretty much set me straight. He pointed out to me I am playing the game I profess to know nothing about, and that I am also ignoring that humans are animals. And since the time that he has known me, I have become more extraverted, and therefore more competition. So I should expect to be treated as such by my other competition. And he’s right.  I’ve just never thought of myself as competition, because I am average to cute. I do not stop traffic, and I do not have a rocking body.

So I need to change how I approach single women. I will keep in mind that I am competition. But will I sink to their level? No. I am still who I am. But that doesn’t mean that I have to open up to them in hopes of gaining a friend. But this is a really good realization for me to have. I am looking back on a lot of my past female relationships that have fallen apart, and it makes sense. JVarsity used to put me down in front of people, especially in front of new men I would be meeting for the first time. (To establish dominance.) Also, there are two ladies who were especially rude to me when I first started here, and now they are both nice. What changed? One is now married, and the other pregnant.

I am actually glad this all happened. Because I can now approach my relationships with single females with more awareness and less naïveté.

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